My dear one…I believe you! It looked fine to me. I think what people often mean when they say, “Keep it a secret for the sake of the church” is “Don’t mess up our appearance, don’t rock the boat, you’ll make our numbers fall, etc. If you want to change the "Key" on any song, click here for the easiest way possible. This is my story. Yes … it’s really difficult to speak. It won’t matter to you that I lived alone and ill. “You like that?… Are you a dirty little slut? That you might find or further lean into safe and wise people in your community who can walk alongside you in the coming days and months as you desire and seek more than what has been. #churchtooChristian livingChristian Perspectivedear churchforgivenessfreedomMy Story Of Sexual Abuse. Do you support the Black Lives Matter Movement? Thanks for sharing!! Yes it is, Nikki! That now he gives God all the glory. I’m praying for that too. Sharing your sorrow. Recovery has been messy for me as well, but I think I’ve made it of the shasow of death and now strolling confidently through peaceful meadows. You have to be extra careful who you see getting close to who. There are no words. Why Positive Affirmations Don't Work Medically reviewed by Scientific Advisory Board — Written by Sophie Henshaw, DPsych on March 20, 2014 Control your thoughts and you create your reality. Niceness is dangerous. So much looking the other way. Greatly. HOWEVER, I hear your legitimate questions. If I could I would give you a sister hug. It will matter that he mentors husbands. That I take at least half the blame. Obama goes to die first after which the Anti-Christ aka Dajjal who used to be probably the most earlier 7 Presidents will take his location! I believe you too. You are so brave!! The consequences of that for women have been horrendous. Thanks for sharing this. You are worth it, no matter your age now. I thank God that He rescued you. Bridge: Eb Bb Eb C Cm Fm Bb Here is a heart that is lonely..here is a heart Cm you can take. You are Salt and Light. Thank you for this resource, Debby, and for these beautiful words to this dear woman. ❤️. I lived like this for 40 years. Of redemption. But when it comes to sexual abuse, the victim carries the shame which should be carried by the perpetrator. I was believed, but nothing was done to help me. Confused? That he and his wife were lost and estranged. Sometimes another’s anger over what has harmed us can be a gift. I don’t know you or the day-to-day specifics of your family, life, and situation beyond what you have shared here, and for this reason and others, I cannot give you specific advice about what to do next. I believe you….and I understand your fear. Thanks for being here today. It will not matter that he was a pro. Just speak up to him and let him know this is NOT appropriate and you will no longer tolerate it. Further, I sincerely believe we are in a time wherein God is very much about the business of changing all of that. Silence is so painful and we believe if we just get it out it will be better, too often it truly is met with even more painful “abuse”. He has an amazing reputation in the community. I was reflecting on my initial response to you and I’d like to clarify – I am not calling you an insensitive person. There was no next time. Yes – so thankful for the God who sees. Why Don't You Believe Me:Brenda Lee. I didn’t understand how I ended up where I was, but I did try to get out. Your words here are so true. And I believe you. PS: You are so right that this happens more than we know. Daddy God orchestrated my healing, from the beginning ’til now – and it is perfect. “I was a broken lock to his prowling Key.” YES. Lillian Brooks released it on the single Sentimental Fool Am I in 1960. How will I not tolerate it if I have no other options? You need to have 100% confidence in yourself and what you want in life, for others to be able to get behind you and believe in you. The angel Gabriel instructed me in Aug. 1973 whilst i used to be in Phillipsbrug, Montana that Jimmy Carter will end up the Anti-Christ, and that he's going to difference his title, and divorce his spouse! Thank you for overcoming the incredible pressure to be the nice girl. I am proud of the example you set for human beings by writing this. View credits, reviews, tracks and shop for the 1954 Vinyl release of Why Don't You Believe Me on Discogs. Keep on…keep on…my friend, I love youMJ. Or a troll. I think it’s so natural to feel that way in the face of injustice. I’ve read this comment several times – thank you for sharing your thoughts! Hey Coni … love you too, and thankful for your support and your words full of kindness. That years went by. This is almost my story exactly. My heart is heavy and grieves for the harm done to you. always an encouragement to my heart. I've never had a dead bug in my fruit, that sucked. I understand how difficult it is/was to speak. Forgiveness is one thing. I believe it matters, too. So now, I have to figure out how to break a 40 year habit of silence while still living with the abuse and the abuser. Barack Obama.......and one is but to return! You’re a brave woman yourself. Funnny thing I burried this so deep that i made it thru an exceptional life. He should not be allowed to torture you any longer. I had to take a stand and risk all relationships and the possible turnmoil and alienation. I could feel the pain, the agony, the shame, and the loneliness in your words. You matter, and should not be swept under any rug. So – I ‘get’ messy… it’s been messy over here too. [Chorus] Hey, baby won't you Believe in me? Thank you for these reminders. People tell me this man is repentent and has changed. Ronald Reagan four. Thank you, Mary Jane. I don’t know. I had a Pastor who always kept the drapes open to the street so there was no corner in his office where anyone could not be seen. A selfish manipulator to his core. My healing has been messy. I admire your courage! It seems the intersection of sexual abuse with the christian religion complicates things exponentially. And I know it’s not over yet. It's you I adore Forever and ever, can I promise more? Thank you for sharing your story. God intervened. I stand with you in saying ‘no more’. I believe you and pray that someday you will be able to call this man out by name and have the church and the world take appropriate action. Without any repentance or remorse ever, these evildoers believe and practice magic – the magic of God’s sea of forgetfulness. I believe you. #1. Jennifer, When he was finished, he silently dressed. That it was so familiar it felt like home. I've never had a dead bug in my fruit, that sucked. And the sin has not been renounced! God is at work within you..healing, helping. Produced by Ben Hillier & Alex James. No one should ever need to! Twenty five years later I must still travel carefully through their lands. #Me too. Thank you for courageously sharing your story. But then others got hurt, by the same, seemingly devout man (and his accomplice wife). In my case, I was 18 and he was 35; he was a volunteer youth leader. Let me guess why you don't believe in God. I believe you! That he warns men of “gals” like me. So much misogyny. 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You used the word “shepherd” – This word is often used to describe pastors, but as a point of clarification in case there was confusion, this man was not my pastor, but someone I worked for. how painful it still is … and I’m hoping for more and more goodness and healing for you. That I started a new life. A fun headline in your newspaper. I knew it would be painful to talk openly….I know that it will continue to be. Nah, it's just some minimalistic medicinal use of wine and marijuana, and a bit of tobacco addiction (I'm down to two a day). I am incredibly blessed to know you. Your story is a part of it. It will matter that you’ll need more evidence. Amen. Way better than oranges. Stand up. here’s a *hug* … sending courage and love …. I too had to go to a BHU and receieve counselling and SSRI meds. BRIDGE: Eb Bb Eb C Cm Fm Bb Here is a heart that is lonely..here is a heart Cm you can take. I've had multiple dreams that later came true. Your poetic writing here tells the pain of your story and I believe you. Why don’t you believe me? They are special to me. The personal details of incest and molestation, which started before first grade, are not necessarily important. Moved home so he had no access to me. Therapists and psychiatrists give us “coping skills” words we supposedly can use to stop ‘enabling’ him. Not just about sexual abuse, but about many other injustices that go on. I wish I could be an angel of vengeance to tear him from his stage. That I curl up and die from this secret. I bet he was such an amazing kid! Not one predator should be sheilded by the church. I don’t know what that will look like in your community or for you personally, but you have named some options already. I have heard the sentiment, “Keep it a secret for the sake of the church” communicated many times both implicitly and explicitly to myself and to others. Thanks, Jennifer. (Just not his own.) I love your courage and your bravery in becoming the bold and honest woman you are today. 40 years of the abuse increasing. That with that came a responsibility to respect and not use and abuse me. Maybe it’s imposter syndrome, where you don’t truly believe you belong. That’s not love or living in the light, but pretense rooted in power and control. I did a lot of spitting. I cheer you on with an ache in my soul. That his wife knew it. . With a standing ovation, Or an honourable mention, If I was better in high school, Would the medals that they gave to me, Help you to believe me? You are truly amazing. “It was a long time ago” Well, yes, but it’s still happening. In addition to writing and counseling, Cyndie also makes songs and trips over her own feet following Jesus. When we stay silent and don’t name our abusers, aren’t we protecting them and putting others at risk? Their secret sins flourish, at the expense of so many victims. Thank you for fighting for your life. Thanks for believing me, Rebecca. It won’t matter that he played with me even then. Sam, I agree with several of the things you’ve expressed here. Happy Sonship NPO | All Rights Reserved 2017, The Ultimate Guide For First Time Christian Sex, The Top 14 Most Hilarious Christian Memes, #YesImAChristian And This is My Christian Hope, Dear Christians, Jesus Was An Asylum Seeker, Jesus The Republican Presidential Candidate, http://beautifuldaughterjer2911.blogspot.ca/, CONTROL (The Addiction That Is Costing The Church Its Freedom), Those Who Suffer From Mental Health Problems Are Not A Failure. I do believe you. I know this feeling. 7. The kind of death needed for new life. It will matter he’s a joy to old ladies. I believe you – and you are beyond courageous. Hugs and blessings received. I was a college-aged girl during the years that this went on, and half the age of the man. and WILL come. Let all know that we have their backs. Respected, [..] and dressed well”. The senior pastor was told that he was ‘trouble’ and that he was being inappropriate with me. Look it up and if I see you on the news, I'll know you're telling the truth. The “intersection of sexual abuse with the christian religion complicates things exponentially.” I definitely agree with this. My entire story is here if you're interested: I believe you. We've had enough time to find what we are The reason we should be walking in the dark But now we should know how cruel love can be You take so long to say, it only makes it harder Our families, work, schools, churches, sports. It will not matter I was a broken lock to his prowling key. Vilified, rejected, exiled. It will not matter that I finally broke free. If he could switch-and-bait it. Copy and paste lyrics and chords to the key changer, select the key you want, then click the button "Click Here". I was married to one for too many years. And I hear so clearly the desperate cries of your heart. Make the world pay attention? It IS a story of great rescue. Because your insane, try giving up the drugs that should fix it. Although I do use drugs, haha. I am so sorry that you have gone through this! Thank you for these words. Join Yahoo Answers and get 100 points today. So here is the story. Thank you, Amy, for believing me. My family has no idea of what I have experienced. It will matter that he said he was sorry. It must be very frustrating for you… I tell you the story how I decided to always believe what my child tells me. SKU: MN0109122 “But if we walk in the light, as he is in the light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus, his Son, purifies us from all sin” (1 John 1:7). "Why Don't You Believe Me?" You mentioned the concept of grooming … I unpacked it in this article, but am hoping to write more generally about it some time soon. I wish i could put the true fear of God into him and force him and his cowardly wife to watch as their congregation and children abandon them, demanding, “How could you be such a monster? How brave to be so open to help others. “Why did you do that?” I later asked. Jesus warned about wolves in sheep’s clothing but there is so much hidden, unconfessed and covered up sin swept under the rug of counterfeit grace. Thank you. I cannot imagine what it took to write this… thank you for sharing it with the world. “He said (used to say) he was sorry. My heart shatters for the girl that you were and also for the woman you have become that is still recovering from this abuse. Take care of you, whatever that needs to mean. I have been recently thinking about why I have spent decades in silence ashamed to share my story, especially with the current “me too” movement. Your Dad wasn't even around. Lastly, I can feel your emotions, and if you concentrate on a color I can usually tell you which it is. It will not matter that I’d been abused before. I love only you Here is a heart that is lonely Here is a heart you can take Here is a heart for you only That you can keep or break How else can I tell you, what more can I do? An arsonist standing at the edge of that forest, match in hand, ready to scorch both of us with accusation? However. I’ve been groomed. If anyone dares to dream bigger than this life of standard living, then your friends will be quick to tell you that where you are now “is life”, and that your dreams are impossible.. 5) You Don’t Even Believe in Yourself. I know this happens way more than we will ever know on this side of eternity. It was covered by Jackie Bradley, Donna Stark, Lillian Brooks, Maureen Evans and other artists. I hear them. I only discovered them last week. It’s obvious you are smart and you are strong. That he wondered how far he could take it. Why don't I believe you? These things should not be! May God’s comfort and peace be to your heart. I have NO doubt that he will face God’s wrath some day! I am sending so much love and support your way. After I had been away from him for some time and began getting back on my feet, he ended up joining and becoming active in the church I was leading worship in each week. Tell me how to break the news There's no way that I can loose my love and it's taken over me I feel as if this love could last forever As if my luck and hope have found each other I feel as if I should have known, together We make good sense to me and I believe Who just said Some girls don't get a second chance When I've toyed and I've romanced Michael B. Storms. I can flip a coin to the side I want 80% of the time. You are a gift to them…you are a gift to me. It does matter. Watch the video for Why Don't You Believe Me from The Duprees's All-Time Greatest Hits for free, and see the artwork, lyrics and similar artists. Thank YOU for these words. Is a 27 yr old unmarried woman considered a spinster? Why Don't You Believe Me by Lillian Brooks was written by Leroy W. Rodde, Lew Douglas and Luther King Laney and was first recorded and released by Joni James - Orchestra conducted by Lew Douglas in 1952. Really? I believe you! Law enforcement prosecuted cases where the statue of limitations qualified. I pray what you have written here will go far in delivering Jesus cleanly away from the clutches of the euro-centric patriarchal hierarchy and back into the hands of the people. A serial cheater. Bb Cm F Dm7 (Please believe, please believe, please believe) Dm7 Dbm Eb F Bb Why don't you believe me..it just isn't fair. So much of the culture perpetuates an environment where predators flourish. Hoping to impact others’ harmonizing as we sing the same “song” in the same “band.”, Thank you for your voice & solidarity, Wendy. Love you too, and thankful for these words of validation and encouragement. To uphold the relationship’s integrity. How do you think about the answers? 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